I have my good days and my bad days. I’m sure you do, too.

• On my good days, I’m generous, kind, grounded, and fearless. I serve from a place of love and plenty.
• On my bad days, I’m selfish, lazy, closed off, and afraid. I manipulate and control others to get my way.

Both of those people are me. Both use my talents and abilities in the best way they can see to use them in that moment.

One creates empowered, aligned leaders, and the other creates resentment, fear, and chaos.

Having more “good days”

I’d love to banish that “bad day” self and have all good days! That would be amazing.

But that “bad day” self has a job. I keep him around for a reason. He protects me when I feel threatened, afraid, or scared. He’s the bully I stand behind on the playground. (Your bad day self might have a different way of doing it or a different job.)

So, instead of “banishing” bad day Brad, what if I just noticed when he was lurking around?

Knowing that I can be selfish, closed off, and afraid means that I can pause when I’m starting to feel that way.

“Wait, that’s not the guy I want to be! What do I need right now to steer back from that cliff?”

How do you notice when you’re starting to “have a bad day?” What do you need to give yourself more capacity to stay in your best day self regardless of what comes your way?